Have you ever seen cartoons from the 1980's where...there is a villain character who constantly tries to steal the power of the hero? They are usually sitting in some dark tower somewhere, obsessing about how to get power and looking at the one they feel has the most while cooking up a plan to steal it. The fairy-tale of Snow White also comes to mind, but there are literally endless examples of this dynamic in our collective storytelling consciousness.
Have you ever felt as though you were Bill Murray in the movie Groundhog's Day? You get up every day and do your best (or maybe your worst!). You have goals, aspirations, possibly a relationship, kids, the career - all of it. And yet, somehow, whatever you do, life just....isn't going anywhere?
Or maybe you can relate to the lyrics of the Talking Heads in their song, "Once in a Lifetime".... you know the one that goes, " And you may ask yourself, "How do I work this?"
And you may ask yourself, "Where is that large automobile?"
And you may tell yourself, "This is not my beautiful house"
And you may tell yourself, "This is not my beautiful wife"
Same as it ever was,
Same it ever was...
I have a phrase for these situations that I call the "chronic oatmeal filter" and I think it's pretty self-explanatory...
When I was 16 I met my first Healer. I can’t recall the exact details but I believe I sold her a cup of coffee and admired her earrings. Later I saw that she was teaching a “Dancing the Chakras” workshop in her parlour for $10 and thought “sounds cool”. Years later I met another woman who brought halloumi to a potluck and had a gorgeous alpaca blanket that she described as “the best 250 I ever spent. It goes with me everywhere. Would you like to touch it?” We hung out after that.
I recently found a photo of little me at about 18 months old. In the photo I am smiling, open and wearing a dress with Beatrix Potter buttons. What struck me when I saw this photo, is how present and secure I look in my body and the feeling of trust and peace that surrounds me. I think most pictures of children this age communicate something similar, have you got one of yourself to reference?
This concept is something I wish I'd absorbed decades ago... and so I'm sharing it because I think it has the potential to help so many people including other therapists, family, care-givers and perhaps even someone who is struggling with their healing and wondering why. It's something called "The Secondary Gain".
Have you ever wondered what a reading really is? As in, what is happening and how does it work? Then this is the post for you.
Caring, Nurturing, Devotion, Harmonising, Restfulness, Protective, Maternal
Lavender essential oil needs no introduction. It is the quintessential oil that most people associate with relaxation, rest and care. It has been used to scent baths, linens and bodies for centuries and one inhalation is enough to make many people sigh with content. If lavender is calling to you today, you may be in need of care in the form of, "Mother knows best", whether that is your own mother, your internal mother or Mother Earth. Or it may be a reminder to embrace humility, service, and the power of small acts of kindness.
Refreshing, Clarifying, Bright, Focused, Stimulating, Clearing, Aware
Peppermint essential oil stimulates and clarifies the system. It acts swiftly and decisively and there is often very little in between. This can be overpowering for some, but if you thrive on a more direct and decisive energy in your life, peppermint has got you covered. If you are drawn to peppermint, you may have a desire to refresh and reset an area of your life, or call in more drive an enthusiasm.
Joy, Warmth, Cleansing, Energizing, Uplifting, Light Hearted, Creative, Positive, Playful
FRESH PRESSED JOY
Orange essential oil offers sunshine, positivity and an uplifting presence in our lives. If you are drawn to orange, it may be time to clear the cobwebs from your life, get motivated to be up with the sun and feel gratitude for a brand new day. Or, it might be time to reconnect with a more open-hearted approach to life and sit in appreciation of our relationships (including to self).
Spiritual, Meditative, Stabalizes, Grounds, Protects, Strengthens the Spirit, Courage, Inspiration
Frankincense essential oil offers purification, cleansing, protection and healing on a deep level. The smoke of Frankincense incense has been used in spiritual practice for thousands of years across faiths and cultures. If you are drawn to frankincense, you may be called to deepen your own spiritual practice. Or, you may feel the need for protection, healing and comfort after shock, loss or major life changes.
Unconditional love, Compassion, Inner Freedom, Balancing, Faith, Sensuality, Patience, Gratitude, Acceptance.
WHAT'S IN A ROSE?
Rose essential oil offers comfort, warmth, creative inspiration and healing for matters of the heart. For many it's the ultimate symbol of love, devotion and sensuality. If you are drawn to rose, you may be carrying some grief or hurt that would benefit from extra care and attention. You may have a creative urge that you're seeking to express, or you may be ready to open your heart again after a loss.
Balancing, Uplifting, Summer, Digesting, Comfort
I just love Bergamot oil. When I smell it, I immediately smile and feel more at peace in myself and with the world. It brings up comforting images: cosy kitchens in winter with the snow falling and a hot cup of earl grey tea, early-morning breakfast with marmalade toast, or hot nights in Cyprus eating preserved bergamot rind while sipping Ouzo. I could go on.
Hi I'm Lauren! I'm a Healer, Spiritual Medium & Clinical Aromatherapist. I help people align with their soul's essence and live a more balance, inspired and intuitive life!